(written not so much like my usual post).
I have friends…
fighting to stay true to their journey as Christians.
trying to do things right.
wanting to know and understand how God brings the one.
watching the social circle around them slowly (or quickly) marry off
…”leaving them behind”.
I have friends going after Mr. Right Now…because Mr. Right appears to be the same person as Mr. Never.
And who can wait for Never when Now is at hand? really.
I watch and listen and talk in the midst of all this. How do I respond?
I feel like I should have the words of encouragment…words to keep them standing firm…pushing forward and Trusting in God’s timing, meanwhile embracing the season of active waiting that singleness can bring.
But I can’t find the words.
I mean I can…I’ve recited them a million times to myself during 9 of the past 12 years. I’ve spoken them a thousand times to other girls and women alike.
The words I have memorized.
I know them, but I can’t find them because if I’m honest…I question it all.
I doubt.
I wonder if this waiting and pursuing God and hoping that He knows what He’s doing is really worth it.
Sure…the words I know and can recite them all the reasons why it is worth it. But what if I was wrong…what if the books and podcasts were also wrong? What if it’s not that big of a deal?
Who do I know that’s waited this long? Shy of starting over, who do I know who fights and waits like this…only to hear a million voices around them saying how stupid it is to hold out and wait. Knowing that God really is He who keeps me this way. And those friends this way…it’s not fun.
I’ve waited as long as my friends…longer in many cases, I can encourage…well at times, I could. But now, if I start to question the truth laying at the root of all that encouragement and “wisdom” and experience that I share with them
…where is the power?
When I take down what has become a mask of certainty to reveal my face full of fear and doubt, and questioning and wondering and WANTING. (and boy, do I want)
…where is the power that I once claimed to be woven through these desires?
Sometimes it’s so damn hard and frustrating to try to do what you think you should do when really you just want to do what you want to do. And how much harder it becomes when you’re not even sure anymore if it does any good…
or if it’s worth it.
or if it even matters in the long run…
or where the lines and boundaries fall between being okay and not okay.
I wish I had the answers and could give all those “right words” that I have memorized from previous personal victories (and heavy reading and podcast listening) to my friends.
I wish I didn’t care this much
I wish there were sleeping pills for desires. To lay them to rest, until the time is right…just as the bible says to do.
maybe this is part of dying to self. learning contentment. persevering. and falling in love with Jesus. maybe this is part of being real.
the end.