“A hope deferred makes the heart sick, but a longing fulfilled is a tree of life” ~Proverbs 13:12
I have quoted this verse many times. It was my staple verse while I was surrendering Japan and missions in Japan…committing to God that I would hold that desire open-handed. It comes to mind often when I talk to others. This past weekend I shared it with someone in a conversation. This morning another friend posted it as a status update on Facebook.
This afternoon I realized how relevant it was for me to ponder once again. A co-worker pulled me aside to share with me a comment made by another co-worker on Friday. A few people were standing around Friday talking about me and what I found out on Thursday. You see, my co-workers were there when I got the flowers…and the fruit. They were also there when I found the picture that exposed all the lies for what they really were. I was not there for the talk, but apparently one of the guys made a comment about how much his heart went out to me remarking that he had never seen anyone respond the way that I had when I carried the gifts from him up to my desk.
I know I was excited, but was it that different? And if so, what made it stand out from other women’s reactions to these things?
After hearing this and continuing to have Proverbs 13:12 come to mind over and over today I realized that for me, at the time of receiving them, those flowers and things, carried a possibility for me of something that I have waited for so long to have. I was so flippin’ happy. I never got gifts delivered to work before! Perhaps that joy and excitement was a small glimpse of what it feels like to have that one deferred hope finally fulfilled. If so, I can’t wait to experience that hope fulfilled for real. When backed by the hand of God and based on a foundation that is 100% true and right…
beautiful.
I hope these co-workers get to see that day, too. They know how long I’ve waited and continue to wait. Maybe somehow God would shine through it…and they would not just see a woman who is really happy, but that they would see my Father and his love…and His delight that comes in fulfilling the desires of our hearts in accordance with His purposes. yes!
All of this is great and wonderful to think about, but what about today? I mean, my hope is a little beaten up and still very deferred. I sat at home for the first night alone, no homework, and no guy that’s going to call me on his drive to/from work tonight to talk and tell me goodnight. My iPhone has gotten quiet. It’s a little weird and I can’t help but wonder, now what?
I know I’m not the only one waiting and holding something open-handed. I know several who are waiting and trusting for financial situations to clear, for a baby to be conceived, waiting and trusting for a job, and for a child to be healed. Just because we wait does not mean that life has to stop. Children’s author Louise Erdrich once said:
“Here I am, where I ought to be”
Today is happening and purposeful and not something to miss. BUT instead of dreaming and waiting for the next big thing to come our way we can rejoice that today is incredibly purposeful, in spite of our own hopes deferred. No matter what we are waiting for, life doesn’t happen once we finally get that thing we’re waiting to see…it is happening now. We can wait for everything our hearts desire while also actively engaging in the present and all that God has before us today.