In honor of Thanksgiving, my church this weekend incorporated the idea of giving thanks to God into the message. I’ve been thinking a lot about the idea of being thankful ever since Sunday. The holidays are quickly approaching. This is one of the hardest times of the year for me. On one hand I like to see my family and spend time with them. On the other hand, however, it serves as a constant reminder of how abnormal my life is. I am bombarded with the reality that I have no parents or siblings. It’s also a huge reminder for me of the disappointment that I have surrounding the reality that I’m still single. Unmarried. No little family with kids of my own that I’ve always wanted and have always hoped would fill this void that I feel so deeply. This has been my reality for a long time now, but it’s still really difficult and lonely, especially during the holidays.
This Sunday the pastor had us write letters to God giving thanks to Him for things in our life. I know that I have so much to be thankful for. Considering the things I have experienced in this life, I have in many ways, surpassed all odds. I’m not sure that I would be alive today if God hadn’t intervened when He did (that is not a statement I say lightly, I honestly believe this). I was able to go through undergrad almost for free (I graduated with less than $10K in loans) because I was a ward of the state. I work for a company who is paying for my grad school. Not many people have this kind of opportunity with regards to higher levels of education. I still have some family that welcomes me into their life. God has graced me with a strength that surpasses my understanding, allowing me to share the truth of my life with others in a way that opens doors for healing for them and experiences that they’ve had. As a little girl I always wanted to travel. I’ve been able to go to many states and several countries as an adult. I wanted this so badly, and it’s only by God’s grace that I’ve been able to experience it and continue to experience it. I have several amazing girlfriends (and guy friends) in my life whom have helped me grow immensely. The internet helps me keep in touch with two in particular, who are currently living on the other side of the world. I have a great job that pays well and allows me the ability to support others who may not be as fortunate today. God has given me knowledge, and wisdom and insight that is often unique and challenges others to think about things in different ways. I have a really cute apartment that I love. And most importantly, over the last several years, God has opened my eyes to the reality of His love for me. He continues to tear down the wounds and lies that I carry/believe from my own experience with my mom and absentee dad and other family members who rejected and hurt me over the years. I’m sure I could go on…
I think its funny that so often we look at our life and focus on the things that aren’t as they should be, the disappointments we have, the things we want and don’t have, the things we dislike about ourselves. We form some kind of tunnel vision, focusing only on those things and find ourselves discouraged and upset with God. That tunnel vision causes us to lose sight of the blessings that abound in our lives. It’s hard to thank God when things are hard and when we’re focusing on that which perpetuates that sense of disappointment in our lives today.
I am so guilty of this. Perhaps you are too. I challenge each of us to look deep into our lives and find the courage to look beyond what we don’t have to recognize all that we do have and thank God for those things. And once we’re finished with thanking God for the blessings…lets thank God for the disappointments and frustrations. There is probably reasons for them, perhaps reasons that we may not understand fully for a long time…
“And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose.” (Romans 8:28)
“Rejoice always, pray without ceasing, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.”
(1 Thessalonians 5:16-18)